"I don't have time," is bullsh*t.
“I don’t have time,” is not a valid excuse. You, Oprah, Hugh Grant, Einstein, Socrates, Adele, and I all have the same 24 hours. And if Oprah can figure out how to...be Oprah, well, darlin’, you can figure out how to make it to the gym. Or start the dream project. Or meditate, cook for yourself, or whatever it is that you never seem to have enough time for.
But only if feeling good is your priority.
One of the biggest excuses people make when it comes to things that can only improve their life is:
I’m too busy. I don’t have the time.
To that, I question whether you’ve got time to get sick, feel like shit, have constant scatter brain, and waste another breath (which you never get back, by the way) in a cycle of habits and patterns keeping you from living your life (which you don’t get to go back and re-do, by the way) in the most fulfilling way possible.
It’s time to call bullshit on the, “I don’t have time,” culture we’ve made acceptable.
You do have the time. Feeling good is simply not your priority at the moment. And that’s fine. But don’t lie to yourself and say you don’t have the time, when what you’re actually saying is, “I don’t want to do it,” or, “I don’t think I can have that,” or, “Things can’t possibly just work out for me like that.”
It’s okay if you don’t actually want to put your health and body first. But don’t waste your time and energy and money pretending like you do.
We always have time to get what we need to get done - done. Laundry? Always gets done before you’ve got no skivvies - I hope. Food? Always finds its way into your belly when you're hungry, I hope. Sleep? To the best you can, will always comfort your body every evening, I hope.
We organize our lives around meeting our needs. And when it’s not a need for you to feel good, you won’t organize your life in a way that supports that. A simple example: When you’re thirsty, do you go grab a glass of water and then stare at in hopes of your thirst being quenched? Nope. You take the glass and drink the water.
Lack of time is really nothing more than a priority issue. Notice the singularity in the world PRIORITY.
When you’ve got a whole bunch of prioritIES, all you have is an itemized to-do list and mad, scattered focus. This leads to overwhelm, and it’s overwhelm that leads to numbing, which leads to binge eating, skipping workouts for netflix, and crashing in bed, only to wake up the next morning with a foggy brain, grabbing a coffee, mindlessly making your way to work, and starting the cycle all over again.
We MUST stop with the saying we want things that we actually aren’t willing to put in the time, money, and effort toward. And we’ve gotta stop the numbness. Your body was made to feel good, and your life is hardwired for success...but you’ve got to release the fear of having what you want (yep, it's a thing..read more on this in my e-book The Unapologetic You) and just say yes to the life you want, not through dreams, but through your ACTIONS.
This looks like showing up to the gym, the yoga class, eating the proper foods, getting the proper rest, and putting your joy and your well being before jobs that are really just there as a source of creative output, not an identity. I reference jobs because in today’s world, this seems to be the number one excuse and time sucker, but there are plenty of ways we’re spending our time these days that’s not supporting our best self (hi, social media…& too much tube time). And your job is meant to be the place in which your best Self is able to step forward and shine! (If that's not the case, then again, more in my e-book...)
So, how do we shift going forward and show up for what we want?
Start with a time audit. Take a look at your schedule and your bank statement. This will give you a great overview of where your priorities are right now. Something to note...one of the other biggest excuses for not putting your well being first is that there isn’t enough money. Your wellbeing doesn't cost extra money....replace the word "time" with "money" in the whole conversation above for an explanation.
To do your audit:
Without changing a thing, record exactly how you spend your days for a week. Spend 15-20 minutes in the evening before bed writing out what you did throughout the day - WITH TOTAL AND OBJECTIVE HONESTY.
Do not judge yourself. Take this like an experiment. Come at with curiosity. Release judgement.
Then, at the end of this week, take a look at your bank statement. Where did you spend money? How much did you spend?
After looking at your bank statement, and reviewing your time sheets for the week, ask yourself a few simple questions:
+ How do I want to feel at the end of each day?
+ What things consistently make me feel this way?
+ Where can I start to add these things (be it activities, foods, outings, etc) into my weekly schedule and budget right now?
Put the things into your schedule, make them absolutely, hands down non-negotiable.
And GO HAVE SOME SEXY FUN PLAYING YOUR WAY THROUGH LIFE.
When you know the value that lies in your feeling good, you’ll not have a problem putting the activities that get you there, first. What most people realize after they do this audit and implement changes, is that when you put feeling good first, time suddenly expands. You have more time to do more things. Why? You’re sharper. You’re more relaxed. You aren’t caught up in the heavy mind f*ck that is endless hours in an office. And when you’re in this pleasant place of being, things done quicker.
You’re worth feeling how you want to feel. You’re worth putting your body (which you can’t operate in this world without) first. And you’re the only one who can do that. Until you decide that it’s important to you and that you truly want to show up in the world in the best way you know how, you won’t.
And let’s be real, this isn’t meant to be so heavy. It’s meant to be light and fun and a challenge.
Remind yourself each day why you’re showing up to everything you’re showing up to. Without a why, you’ll stop when it gets hard. With a why, you’ll find a way and make it work.
I'd love to hear from you....what seems to be the biggest hurdle in your life when it comes to doing the things you want to do, but never seem to have time for? And what's your favorite way to stay in your flow?
Leave me a comment below and let me know!
All my love,